When kids start talking about having a boyfriend or girlfriend in kindergarten, it can seem innocent and cute.
But as puberty approaches, those conversations suddenly feel a lot more real and that raises the inevitable question: When is the right time for kids to start dating?
Three experts in psychology and family therapy weigh in with the key signs every parent should look out for.
Self-driven safety
If your child is the one who thought to carry contraception info, downloaded safe-ride apps, or saved emergency contact numbers - without being told - it's a clear sign they’re taking their own safety seriously.
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Boundary boss
Can your child say “no thanks” and accept a “no” from someone else without throwing a fit, trying to manipulate, or pushing back?
Setting and respecting boundaries is a major milestone in emotional maturity.
Emotional seatbelts fastened
Crushes, breakups, and jealousy are all part of the ride.
A kid who can say “I’m hurt, not destroyed” instead of “my life is over” shows they’re equipped to handle the highs and lows of romance.
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Respectful digital habits
Do they use texting and social media with the same care you'd expect if they were taking care of a pet fish? Responsibly, with no midnight chaos or shady disappearing messages? That’s a good sign.
Curfew credibility
Coming home on time or logging off the phone when agreed - without 37 reminder texts - signals a child who can follow rules and respect limits.
Friend-group first
A crush shouldn’t replace friendships, schoolwork, or hobbies.
If your child keeps dating in balance with their usual priorities, they’re more likely to handle relationships in a healthy way.
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Problem-solving skills
When plans fall through or something goes wrong, does your child figure it out or immediately call you to fix it?
Being able to problem-solve shows independence and adaptability in relationships.
Consent-savvy
Can they ask, “Is it OK if I…?”, check in with “Are you still comfortable?”, and adjust when someone hesitates?
If yes, they’re demonstrating an understanding of consent - essential for dating readiness.
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Low drama, high repair
Disagreements don’t spiral into social media revenge or days of silence. Instead, they end with apologies and changed behavior.
That shows your child can communicate and repair trust which is the key in any romantic relationship.
Logical leap capacity
Can they think ahead like “If I ghost this person now, I’ll still have to see them in class tomorrow…awkward"?
Being able to foresee the consequences of their actions shows cognitive maturity and emotional intelligence.
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This article is based on information from PureWow.com.